Sansa Stark
Expect the worst or die.
I think I'm like "Sansa Stark" from Game of Thrones—I understand things, but slowly. I've known someone for over 12 years, and this person gave me a life lesson during the Quota Movement. For some reason, we had a fight and misunderstandings, and then this person started ignoring me after a significant life change. So, I also started to be ignored. There's nothing I can do about it other than being ignored and letting the relationship fade. No matter what I tried to neutralize the situation, it kept getting worse, and this person made it so much worse that I had to start ignoring and forgetting them.
For almost 1.5 years, I tried to re-add this person on Facebook. Do you know how I did it? By sending and canceling friend requests 3 or 4 times! Eventually, this person accepted.
During the Quota Movement, I called this person for updates. Here's the transcript:
Me: Hello, hello?
Someone: Hello, Assalamualaikum.
Me: Walaikum Salam. Tui campus e na barite?
Someone: Hello?
Me: Ha, tui campus e na barite
Someone: Ke?
Then I realized that "Ke?" meant they deleted my contact and forgot my voice. Even though I memorized their number till now and wanted to repair the relationship, it was clear they didn't remember me. I don't have many problems in life except for these three: CGPA, money, and half-relationship rejection. This person thought I wasn't strong enough to repair myself and be self-dependent. They forgot the past for their future. They forgot who stood by them during their downtime. I don't forget. I always remember those who helped me in any way, whether during tough times or normal times. I am grateful to you all.
Lesson learned:
Don't expect help from anyone.
Forget everyone except those essential in your life.
Don't care about anyone except those who matter to you personally.
What's next: I'll block this person from my life for their own good. I will forget them permanently.
Sorry, everyone, I couldn't keep the comment box open. If you want to say something, please WhatsApp me. Happy to learn life lessons from you all too.
